Baggage. How somebody travels tells you so much about a person, and I do try to go on excursions with the people I date to figure out whether long-term, our styles mesh. Micromanagers invariably get their kicks out of making a thousand lists, hoping that they can somehow ward off disaster so long as they check off everything before embarking on their carefully curated trip. On the other end of the spectrum are the hand-off folks whose wanderlust compels them to live out of a backpack for weeks at a time, they get that the journey is all about the adventure and would be disappointed if they didn’t get a little lost.
Emotionally, we’re all somewhere on that spectrum, since we all have some level of baggage. Whether it’s our looks, our intelligence, our financial status, our faith, or our relationships, there are aspects of our lives that we feel varying degrees of confidence about and how we interact with the world and others is an extension of what we carry with us. I’m really into what Tony Robbins says in this video, it’s twenty-ish minutues but totally worth it:
The gist of it is that while we have our own roadmaps to follow because what matters to each of us will be different, it’s important to keep in mind that we are not chained to our past. We can always switch out behaviors and thought patterns that are destructive, and move towards being healthy and happy. Is it easy? No. But it’s possible, and that’s enough to give us hope.